Completely disagree. To me, and the OSI, none of those things other than redistribution and forking have anything to do with being open source or not. In fact, you could have a closed source project tick nearly all of those boxes, although that would indeed be very unusual.
I'm not sure if there is a term for what you are describing. Perhaps "community driven project".
I suppose that's true, but it makes it quite hard to communicate specific concepts if everyone gets to come up with their own definition of existing terms. I'm aware that language evolves, but at least at the moment, expecting projects to be community driven just because they use the term open source when describing themselves will set you up for conflict if they are referring to the conventional definition of the term and don't also happen to want to run a community driven project.
I'm not sure if there is a term for what you are describing. Perhaps "community driven project".